Sunday, October 17, 2010

A Sixty/Forty Proposition

When I was in college, one of the professors said to us, his students, “The secret of a successful marriage is this: Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition. A 50/50 proposition is one where nobody is giving anything.”

“Rather, the secret of a happy marriage is 60/40. The husband gives in sixty percent of the time and expects his wife to give in forty percent of the time. The wife gives in sixty percent of the time and expects her husband to give in forty percent of the time. In a 60/40 proposition, you don’t clash in the middle and say, ‘Now, it’s your turn.’ Instead, you intersect and overlap, because you’re each giving sixty percent.”

“Give and it will be given to you.”


It’s the secret in business ; it’s the secret in interpersonal relationships.

[from Be An Extraordinary Person In An Ordinary World by Robert H. Schuller]


My son, Matthew and his fiancée, Michelle registered their marriage at the ROM in Putrajaya on Sunday, 10.10.2010.



I thank God for bringing them together.

May they be blessed with happiness and may they feel His presence and peace in their home.

The above wisdom by Dr. Schuller will certainly be of use to them in their married life.